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20 I April 15,2010
TEXAS JEWISH POST & SINCE 1947
D'var Torah
Think before speaking: The worth of healthy hesitation
On my recent road trip over the
Passover holiday, I visited my chil-
dren who live in different cities on
the East Coast. When I see them,
especially since it is infrequently, I
am very conscious of my role as a
father and want very much to share
with each one of them some piece
of knowledge or wisdom gained
through life experience. I want them
to have a legacy of positive memo-
ries about their interactions with me
while I am still alive and after I am
gone.
One of my sons told me that he
was facing some challenges at work
related to the personalities of the
people in his office. He was debating
whether to respond to their negativi-
ty. I shared with him the importance
of always maintaining your cool no
matter what the day-to-
day challenges might be.
Never speak rashly to
someone because of the
pressure of the moment.
If you do, you will prob-
ably regret it later. At the
end of the day,
you always
want to feel
that you have
done your best
in any given
situation. You
can only con-
trol input. The outcome of events is
always in God's hands.
Furthermore, I told him that the
importance of not speaking rashly
is a topic in this week's Torah por-
tion of Tazria. At the beginning of
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the Torah reading, we learn
an unusual law, that in Bibli-
cal times a woman who gave
birth was required to bring
two offerings. One was an
elevation offering designed to
bring one close to God, and
the other was a sin of-
fering. The Talmudic
tractate of Niddah
(31b) states that the
sin offering atoned for
the possibility that,
while in the midst of
excruciating labor
pains, she may have sworn never to
live with her husband again. In other
words, she brought the sin offering
for having spoken rashly.
In my own professional life, I
have learned to appreciate this valu-
"Never speak rashly to
someone because of the
pressure of the moment.
If you do, you will prob-
ably regret it later."
Rabbi Herb Cohen,
family educator at the
Community Kollel of Dallas
able lesson. Many years ago when I
was serving as principal of a lewish
day high school, I was tempted to
respond sharply to a lay leader who
was known for his nasty vitriol; but
listening inwardly to the voice of
a revered mentor, I held my peace.
Years later, I was soliciting funds
for an important personal project
and I approached my former adver-
sary for a gift. He was very warm
and friendly and gave me a sizable
contribution. The incident served as
a reminder of how valuable it is to
hold one's temper, to not respond to
every provocation.
This mindset is at the heart of the
halachah/law which required a new
mother to bring a sin offering for a
statement said under the pressure
of the moment. The hallmark of the
thoughtful jew is to think before
speaking, to appreciate the worth of
healthy hesitation.
Rabbi Herb Cohen, family educator at the
Community Kollel of Dallas, can be reached at
rabbihjco@msn.com.
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Charlotte Betty Riesman
Charlotte Betty Riesman of Dal-
las died on April 3, 2010. Charlotte
was born Jan. 15, 1931 in Toronto,
Canada and spent most of her life in
Dallas. Charlotte graduated from
Highland Park High School in 1948
and then married Harry Riesman
and had three wonderful children.
The early years of her marriage were
spent raising their children. Active in
charitable work, she gave freely of her
time and energy to help others. She
was also active in the Jewish com-
munity, including Temple Emanu-El
Sisterhood and many other Jewish
organizations. She enjoyed needle-
pointing religious canvases and be-
ing surrounded by her family and
friends. She was preceded in death
by her parents, Maurice and Ida
Stine; her husband, Harry Riesman;
her son, Cory David Riesman; and
her grandson, Dustin Austin Ries-
man. Survivors include her daughter
Lindy Riesman and granddaughter
Rachel Elizabeth Riesman of Dallas,
and daughter Bonnie Berry of Little
Rock, Ark. Also surviving are grand-
children Tim, Jayson, Jessica, Jen-
nifer, Ashley and Brittney; her sister
Sandy Frey and husband Joe Frey of
Hebron,Ky.; niece Melissa Frey An-
ton of New York; and nephew Scott
Frey of Indiana. The family thanks
Rabbi Asher Knight and the staff at
Temple Emanu-El in Dallas for their
extended help and tremendous sup-
port. A graveside service was held on
April 7 at Temple Emanu-El Cem-
etery with Rabbi Knight officiating.
Donations can be made to Rabbi
Knight's discretionary fund at Tem-
ple Emanu-El.
Seymour Rubin
Seymour Rubin died on March
17, 2010 in Cincinnati, Ohio. He was
born in 1923 in Brooklyn, N.Y. Sey-
mour, the youngest of five brothers,
attended school in New York City and
married his childhood sweetheart,
Florence Botnick. They were both 19
at their wedding in 1942. From 1943
to 1946, dur-
ing World War
II, Mr. Rubin
was an army
technician and
chaplain's assis-
tant at Ft. Lewis,
Tacoma, Wash.,
and Camp
Beale, Marysville/Yuba City Calif.
The Rubins returned to New York
with their first child, Warren (born
1945), in March 1946. Three more
children followed: Ronald in 1948,
Patrice in 1952 and Peter in 1954.
Mr. Rubin was in the kitchen cabinet
business from 1947 to 1966 with his
four brothers. Together they founded
and built Eastern Wood Products
Corp., one of the largest manu factur-
ers of wood kitchen cabinets in the
northeast. Mr. Rubin was a member
of Good Fellowship Lodge of the
Knights of Pythias for more than 25
years. Florence and Seymour attend-
ed President Kennedy's inauguration
in Washington, D.C., in January 1961.
Seymour received honors from Bnai
Zion, Israel Bonds and the American
Heart Association for his persistent
and successful fundraising activi-
ties. The Rubins relocated to Florida
in 1978, where Mr. Rubin continued
to work in the cabinet industry until
his retirement in 1988. Florence and
Seymour remained in Florida until
the late 1990s when Florence's health
began to decline. They came to Cin-
cinnati (Amberly Village) to be closer
to their children for their remaining
years. Mr. Rubin was a resident of Ce-
dar Village in Mason, Ohio, at the time
of his death. Interment was at the New
Montefiore Cemetery Farmingdale,
N.Y. Mr. Rubin was preceded in death
by his wife, Florence, of 66 years. Sur-
vivors include Sherry and Warren Ru-
bin of Piano; Janice and Dr. Ronald
Rubin of Westchester, Ohio; Patrice
and Thomas Hunt of Mason, Ohio;
Diane and Peter Rubin of Cleveland,
Ohio; 10 grandchildren; and five
great-grandchildren. Donations may
be made to Rubin Scholarship Fund at
Congregation Anshai Torah, Piano, or
a charity of choice.
Gloria J. Mayer
Shapp
Gloria J.
Mayer Shapp,
born Dec. 13,
1931, died April
11, 2010. She
was preceded
in death by her husband, Ronald E.
Shapp, and is survived by her four
children, Rita, Gayle, Charles and Da-
vid; five grandchildren; and six great-
grandchildren. Graveside services
were held on April 14. Arrangements
entrusted to Sparkman-Hillcrest.
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