The Rio Grande Herald (Rio Grande City, Tex.), No. 27, Ed. 1 Thursday, April 30, 1987 Page: 13 of 16
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by Diana Van Aradala
(DEAR DIANE:
I waf. recently voted a
state senator. It had been a
long haul, but I finally
made it. Believe me, it's
really not easy to be a
woman in politics.
I've been dating a man
for about a year and now
he wants to get married. I
do love him very much and
I don't want to lose him,
ibut I just don't see how
marriage and my career
could mix. After all my
hard work, I'm not about to
give everything up My
boyfriend just doesn't
understand it when I tell
him that marriage just isn't
in my plans right now.
I even asked him what's
wrong with the way things
are now, but he said that
eventually it would just get
'empty because it wouldn't
be enough. He said he
believes marriage is the
fulfillment of a relationship
like ours. I don't know
what to do about this
because I know he's going
to leave me. Can you help?
UNHAPPY
DEAR UNHAPPY
Quite frankly, I don't see
what the problem is. It's
inot an either-or situation.
You can have both mar-
riage and a career and
make them work. After all,
how many of your fellow
senators, whether male or
female, are married? I'll bet
if you asked them, they
wouldn't understand why
you feel you have to remain
single.
Perhaps there's some-
thing else holding you
Iback. I suspect that may be
the case Try to think about
it and examine your feel
ings. Once you know
what's really troubling you
and holding you back, you
and your boyfriend can
probably work something
out. I do believe he'd be
willing U> wait a bit longer
if he knew there were some
reason for waiting.
DEAR DIANE:
Lately, I've been very
unhappy and dissatisfied
with my life. The reasons
are many and, it seems, the
solutions are few. I'm with-
drawing more and more
from friends and family,
because I really feel that I
just want to be alone.
My behavior is really
starting to irritate my boy-
friend, but I can't help it. I
lust don't feel like being
with him. I'd rather be
alone When I am alone, I
just sort of brood about
things. I'm also finding it
harder and harder to moti-
vate myself to go to work. I
have a good job which I
need to support myself, but
I'm just not interested.
What can I do to help
myself?
DEPRESSED
DEAR DEPRESSED:
You're on the road to
helping yourself, though
you may not realize it. Just
writing this letter alone is a
good, positive step. What
you need to do is define the
"things" that are troubling
you with the help of a
counselor. Once you've
done that, you'll be able to
work out some solutions.
Please seek help right
away. As you've recog-
nized, your behavior is
unhealthy and could pos-
sibly lead you to really
becoming depressed — in
the clinical sense. The
sooner you start working
on your problems, the bet
ter you'll feel
DEAR DIANE:
I ain 13 years old and
very mature for my age As
a result, I find that I'm not
interested in any of the
boys in my class. My next-
door-neighbor is 21 and I
think he's fantastic I often
catch him looking at me, so
I know he's interested. In
fact, the other day, he met
me after school and walked
home with me. I let hiin
kiss me and it was great! I
want to date him, but my
parents would probably
flip. How can I get my
parents to see the light?
NO BABY
DEAR BABY:
I often get letters from
teenage girls complaining
that the boys their age are
only "after one thing -
Trust me on this one. When
a 21-year-old man pursues
a 13-year-old, he's defi-
nitely out for one thing,
unless he's grossly imma-
ture and finds himself more
comfortable with pubes-
cent girls than with women
closer to his age!
I hate to sound like a
prude, but if you hang
around this guy, you're
going to find yourself in a
lot of trouble. He will also
be looking for trouble, but
of a different sort. He can
actually go to jail for trying
to seduce a minor.
Your parents are right
and should not allow you
to see him. Get your mind
off him and spend more
time with friends closer to
your age. Concentrate on
your schoolwork as well. In
the long run, you won't be
soiry. However, I can guar
antee that if you continue
this flirtation with your
21-year-old swain, you will
wind up with a ton of
regrets!
• • •
DEAR DIANE:
My husband and I have a
rather delicate problem.
He's a wonderful man and I
love him very much, but
I'm not satisfied with him
in one area. He's not affec-
tionate enough to me.
Because of this, I find
myself unresponsive to him
in the bedroom. I almost
feel as if I'm being used, if
that makes any sense.
I think I would feel so
much better if he'd kiss me
more, or hold hands, or
something. The only time
he touches me is when he
wants to go to bed. Please
help me before this ruins
our marriage. Lately, I've
been finding all sorts of
excuses not to make love. I
know he's getting impa-
tient, but I don't know what
to do or how to tell him.
FRIGID
DEAR FRIGID:
One of the most impor-
tant keys to any good
marriage is communica-
tion. How can your hus-
band change his behavior if
you don't tell him what's
bothering you? However,
bear in mind there are
ways of telling him. It
should be when you're
both relaxed and quiet.
When you discuss your
needs with him, do so in a
calm, rational way without
accusing him of thought
lessness or selfishness. I
think once he's aware of
the problem, he'll take
steps to correct it.
As women, I think we all
have a hard time trying to
understand a man's atti
tudes toward sex. They
don't seem to need the
same kind of attention and
petting we crave. We often
perceive that as an indica-
tion that they don't care,
and if we don't feel loved,
we don't feel particularly
turned on, no matter what.
However, we can ail help
each other out by telling
each other how we feel.
• • •
If you have a question,
write to Dear Diane c/o
Diane Eckert, Editor
Weekly Features, King Fea
tures, 235 East 45th Street.
New York, New York
10017.
© 1W86 by King Features Synd
STATE CAPITAL
HIGHLIGHTS
By Lyndell Williamt
TEXAS PRESS ASSOCIATION
AUSTIN (iov. Hill Clements
spent last week stumping 17 Texas
cities with hi anli tax message,
while pro lax Democratic senators
sent their "truth squad'' following
on his heels
Clements and some 100 Demo-
cratic law makers, led by I t Gov
fltill Hobby, arc now loeked on a
collision course over w hcther state
gov ernment can continue adequate
services without a $1 billion tax
hike
I'he Democrats sent a group
each day after adjournment to the
cities where Clements is urging
voters to write to the legislators
Fhcv either used Hobby's private
plane, or will be reimbursed bj
11he Senate Democratic Campaign
Committee
The House, for now, is siding
w ith Hobbv over Clements, but the
support doesn't come cheap
House members arc shaping a
budget somewhat in the middle of with whom thev believe
Obviously, one bill is a condi-
tion for the other, as far as the
I louse leadership is concerned, but
Hobby isn't buying He said the
Senate won't pass the ban on in
come taxes because it's bad pol
icy
Political Risk
Hobbv's resistance is not with-
out political risk, for if he denies
the ban, he mav lose House sup
port for his higher budget
And since Hobbv has already
expressed his possible candidacy
lor governor in 1990, he w ill surely
lind himself branded by conscrva
tives as the man who paved the
way lor income taxes
In 1990, the burning issue will
probablv be the introduction or
state income taxes to Texas, and
that s why some conservatives risk
jockcving now to leverage Hobby
into a no win position
Hobby can lake tare of himself
in the Legislature; he may wind
up teaching school to lots of folks
No one doubts that with Hobby,
it's principle over preservation
Clements' Credibility
for Clements, his no new taxes
roadshow w ill be a test on whether
"Ponygate", the SMI' football
scandal, has hurt his credibility
lie's saying that his budget plan
won't hurt education and social
services, while some Democratic
senators sav he's wrong
In fact, thev accuse each other
of distorting the facts, among
other things, and it'll boil down
to a swearing match with the con
fused public as judge. They'll go
Clements' low and Hobby's high,
but thev also passed a ban on
all state income taxes unless the
^voters approve
Income Tax Han
Clements favors the ban, Hobby
does not
Clements swept into office on
"no new taxes", and he feels he's
got a mandate, Ponygate or no
The Senate will lind out if the
mandate has stuck by him
Other Highlights
•The House isn't rushing to
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pass Texaco's proposal to post less
bond in its legal squabble with
Pennzoil, but in committee, wit
ncsses said the company's fate af
Tects jobs, slate retirement and ed
ucation funds. House members are
reluctant to be stampeded in the
closing weeks of the session
• The Senate Economic Commit
tee sent to the floor a package of
tort law reforms aimed at rcdue
ing the high dollar awards given
in personal injury eases The ham
mering is not over, as the sponsor
expccts more concessions to oppo
nents.
•The full Senate last week
passed five bills limiting the pow-
ers of grand juries, all compro
mises between prosecutors anil dc
I'ense lawyers
•T he House approved a spousal
rape bill, making the act a crime,
and included a felony penalty for
anv AIDS carrier who knows he or
she has the disease but continues
to have sex with spouse or person
without informing them
Sponsor Dcbra Danburg wanted
to protect wives against rape,
and didn't like the amendment
tacked on by Ilallsville Rep Jim
NleWilliams, saying it w ill kill her
bill
Danburg's Houston district in
eludes the Montrose area, which
has a high homosexual population
•Attorney General Jim Mat
tox is using Southwestern liell
Telephone's billing mail to advise
consumers on protection against
fraudulent telephone marketing
schemes.
• Prominent. Texas Republican
Anne Armstrong, former Ambas
sador to Great Britain, was se
lected by President Reagan to re-
ceive the Presidential Medal of
Freedom.
•The Stale Aircraft Pooling
Board will irv to swap the con
troversial, expensive jet used by
former Gov Mark W hite lor two
smaller planes
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TKXAS
gardener
\tips
Texas Grown' is .i program de-
signed b\ the lev. is De pan me ill ot Ag-
riculture and members ol the nuiserv
mdustrv to identify and promote nur-
sery products grown in Tevas
\s ,i matter ol pride and lo\all>.
Texas consumers should look tor the
"Texas Grown" label when buying
plants from ,i nursery By supporting
this program, the consumer can help
increase over.ill sales of nursery plains
in Texas and help Texas grower^ cap-
ture a greater share ol the Icx.^ mar-
ket
When Texas consumers look toi
the "Texas Grown label Iliey can lv
sure the plant* thev buy are ol good
quality, and th.it they arc supporting
the slate's economy
Qualifications loi a 'Texas
Grown" plant are thai n has been cub i
propagated and snm n in live- ot
purchased .IS .I llliei ,illd tlaiisplallted
atld glow li in h - a \l'd lli.it il h i
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"Texas Grown"
For The Good Of Texas
GRO
time growing in Texas before sale
Nurseries and nursery plant sel-
lers can help develop new markets for
Texas nursery products in other stares
by exhibiting under TDA's "Texas
Grown" banner at trade shows in
targeted out-ol-Mate markets Nurse
nes and nursery plant sellers located
in Texas can apply for a membership
at no charge except lor the cost ot
labels, tags and point-ot-purchase mat
erials.
The Texas nursery industry has
enormous potential for growth and.
through the "Texas Grown" program.
theTDA is working with nursery grow-
ers to bring about that growth Tor
more information contact the TD.\.
Marketing Division. P.O Box I_s4\
Austin. T\ 78711. 1512 463 7(S24.
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Computer
Clips
by Geo. Williams
Kids will be counting
more than sugarplums this
Christmas when over six
million youngsters dis-
cover electronic teaching
aids under the tree. User
friendly pre-computers at
toy prices are replacing
more traditional play
things, emerging as one of
the fastest-growing catego-
ries in the toy industry. One
of every four families will
own a pre-computer tutor
by the end of the 198b
holiday season.
The popularity of elec-
tronic teaching aids stems
from their ability to turn
learning into fun. The
simulated voices of
friendly talking tutors,
lively animation, flashing
lights, amusing sound
effects and spirited musical
tunes transform reading,
writing and arithmetic into
high tech, game-like chal
lenges. Top sellers are even
designed to look and work
like mini personal compu
ters so youngsters get an
important basic introduc-
tion to using a computer.
Today's parents are
responding to the fact that
their children are part of
the computer age. They
want to help their children
learn and they want them
to be introduced to the
technological world they're
entering at an early age
These pre-computer toys
are just the answer to this
need.
Hello Helen...
by Helen Salt
Dear- Helen: Is it true that
Cybill Shepherd is one of
Hollywood's nicest stars'.'
Kate, Sanger, Tex.
Dear Kate Absolutely!
Cybill will never turn down
an autograph seeker. Says
Cybill: "How could I?
These are the people who
make my job possible, and
without fans, what is there''
I will never turn down an
autograph seeker. Actually,
I am quite honored and
flattered
Dear Helen: Is it tme that
John Davidson's wardrobe
on 'The New Hollywood
Squares" is provided by
Sears? Aima, Hollywood,
Calif.
Dear Alma Yes, but then
again, John would look
good in anything. After all,
he was a male model back
in the early '60s.
Dear Helen: How many
children does Maria Gibbs
of "227" have in real life?
lackson, < irlando, Fla.
Dear Jackson: Maria is
the proud mom of two sons
and one daughter In far t,
an upcoming script on the
NBC hit, "227," was written
by her daughter
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Roberts, Kenneth. The Rio Grande Herald (Rio Grande City, Tex.), No. 27, Ed. 1 Thursday, April 30, 1987, newspaper, April 30, 1987; Edinburg, Texas. (https://texashistory.unt.edu/ark:/67531/metapth195078/m1/13/: accessed April 26, 2024), University of North Texas Libraries, The Portal to Texas History, https://texashistory.unt.edu; crediting Rio Grande City Public Library.